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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I have problems finding and meeting girls, it's not that I'm bad looking either I just have problems. Any advice?
A - Dear Andy,
There's a wonderful booklet available that is written and published by 'Dear Abby'. It's called "How to Be Popular: You're Never Too Young or Too Old". You can write to her at Dear Abby, P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA. 90069.
As the Grand Lady of advice columnists, along with her sister Ann Landers, she has compiled information that will be of enormous help to you.
Now, to answer your question more directly: Let's divide it into a couple of parts. First, 'meeting' females really goes on almost all the time. It's my guess that you want them to be attracted to YOU. You accomplish this by becoming the best person YOU can be -- and that is not always easy. Women, in general are attracted to a man with whom they feel at ease, someone with whom they can laugh and have a good time, someone whom they can trust and feel safe. This does NOT mean that you are dull and unexciting -- it just means that you are not a predator --( you're not, are you?.)
It helps to have an excellent education, passion for your life and your life's work, and exciting plans for your future as well as having an abiding fondness and respect for women and humankind in general. Having high moral values and unwavering good character are elements that will draw high-caliber women to you. (I am making the, perhaps naive, assumption that that IS what you are looking for.)
If you go the 'easy' route and just want to 'get laid' -- excuse my crudeness here -- you can always do that, but the result of taking that path is that you will set your feet toward a downwardly spiraling goal. Becoming a person of, as Dr. Laura Schlessinger says, 'character, courage, and conscience,' takes determination and grit. The rewards, however, are absolutely worth it.
Now, as where to GO to meet women, the 'old standbys' are still good. Go out into the world where good people are to be found. Go to classes populated by women -- (cooking classes are a boon to both of you!) Become a volunteer. Your city or town has many needs and you can, as Tom Lehr would say, "do well by doing good". Join a church, synagogue, a professional organization, a political party -- getting outside yourSELF and becoming OTHER-oriented will bring you many, many rewards. Ladies are attracted to energetic men who 'get out, get along, and get going'.
Take any kind of dancing lessons, a man who knows how to dance is, quite frankly, 'catnip' to women. Joining a club with a high percentage of women can be very rewarding. Joining a gym may work and will also have the added benefit of putting you in excellent shape.
- Annabelle
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