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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I was in love with this guy for about one year. He did some bad things to me such as cheated, but I always learn to forgive and forget. Then we got back together, and this time I cheated on him which was something I didn't planned to do. During all of this time I loved him, very much. Just that now he wants to start over
and try all this over again. I know he loves me even
though we are both young and we make mistakes.
He has even attempted suicide on his life because of all this.
I need to know if I should give him another chance. What do you think?
A - Dear Kisha,
Another chance to do WHAT?? Hmmmm,let me think about this now. He cheated, you cheated, he attempted suicide. Gosh, sounds like a match to me!
Kisha, seriously, aside from the fact that you BOTH need to back off all romantic relationships and center yourselves, this is a no-go. ANYtime a person attempts suicide, you take this very seriously. And you do NOT continue to stay in their lives.......his attempt was a manipulation. Suicide attempts often result in death and, why on EARTH would you want to be involved with someone who is in so serious need of mental health care?
If this were a member of your family, or a dear friend, that would be one thing. Here we have a person of poor character, lacking integrity, with no good sense of self who, not knowing any other way to deal with the results of his actions, attempts to off himself. Really, Kisha, not a good choice. Set him up with whatever community mental health care is available, (if his family isnāt already doing that), and get YOUR head in a better place. By that, I mean develop YOUR character where, when you have a friend, you DONāT cheat. Thatās tacky.
- Annabelle
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