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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I was going out with this guy and a mutual friend was at a party we were attending. I was upset at the friend and she asked my forgiveness, (on her knees). I had told her earlier that I would call her later and talk things over with her, but I walked away without saying a word.
The next day, my boyfriend called and said he couldnāt go out with some who hurt his friends the way I did. How can I get him back?
A - Dear Jesy,
Well, the truth is, that at 16, youāre in a growth area where youāll sometimes do things that youāve either seen someone else do, or had done to you. In this case, what you did has had a terminal effect on your relationship with your boyfriend. Itās a hard way to learn a lesson.
It must have been quite a feeling of power for you to walk away from someone who was begging your forgiveness. Where have you experienced that kind of scene before? In real life, or on the silver screen perhaps?
Young men can be very impressionable, and for them to see a vengeful female is most upsetting. Remember, Īmomā has the power to turn on her heel and walk away. Thatās terrifying to a small child, and young men arenāt that far from childhood themselves.
It would be a good thing for you to reflect on your behavior and to apologize both to your girlfriend and to your young man for your actions. Remember, an apology is made of of three things, 1. awareness of the wrongness of your behavior, 2. genuine repentance for your behavior, and, 3. a clarification that you will never do such a thing again along with what ever you can do to heal the wound that you have caused.
This is something only a courageous person can do.........
Learn from this experience and resolve to improve your behavior, toward yourself as well as to others. Life is long and mistakes are for learning. You can become a good friend to many people. I believe in you.
- Annabelle
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