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Q - Dear Annabelle,
There is a nice girl who is very pretty. I need to have a relationship with her. I fall in love, but I am so shy. Please help me.
A - Dear Zuhair,
Jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins, (and for good reason), itās Īeating YOU aliveā.
This fellow sounds perfectly happy with the relationship just as it is......he has JUST what he wants. The REAL question is: Can YOU get clear on what YOU are doing? Youāve had a relationship with him since you were seventeen -- ( tell him what YOU want and then move on). He has what HE wants, you donāt. (Actually, you do, you just donāt realize that what you Īsayā you want and what you Īreallyā want are not the same thing).......remember, if itās Īin our livesā itās because weāve ALLOWED it to be there, even Īinvited it inā.
The pathological dynamic of jealousy usually stems from inner insecurity -- but not always. If this is a pattern in your life, seeking professional help would be a very -- very -- good idea.
You deserve better, and only YOU can see that you get it. Donāt waste your time arguing with a jerk......and donāt waste your LIFE acting foolishly.
- Annabelle
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