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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I have been seeing a 45-year-old bachelor regularly for a year. He now has a job opportunity in another state, but when I asked what would happen to our relationship, he was vague and said he told me early on he wasn't into "major commitment."
I don't want to get married, but I would like to believe that our relationship would grow. Should I dump him or give him more time? He may not get the job. Then, do we go back to our old relationship? This is the healthiest relationship I've had in my life. Why is it going wrong?
A - Dear Colleen,
If this is Īthe healthiest relationshipā youāve had in your life, then we need to look at a couple of things. Since this man has told you thatās heās NOT Īinto major commitmentā, I strongly suggest that this is what YOU want as well. Perhaps youāre not aware that, in life, we Īselectā that which suits our purpose?
This Īrelationshipā is EXACTLY what you have wanted.......you wanted nothing, you have nothing......he told you he offered nothing. You see, if youād wanted
SOMETHING, when *HE TOLD YOU IN PLAIN ENGLISH* that he was offering Īnothingā, well, you would have gone elsewhere to get Īsomethingā, right then and there.
The only thing Īwrongā is that YOU are not clear on how life IS. You might want to get yourself to a good shrink and take a look at this pattern of behavior....because if you DONāT....then take a GOOD look into your mirror....what you HAVE RIGHT NOW, Colleen, is what YOU, Colleen, have brought into your OWN life.
Go ........read Īthe Rules for Being Humanā.............and commit them to memory.
- Annabelle
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