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Q - Dear Annabelle,
Three weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months due to the reason because I felt he was not respecting me as a person. During the relationship's duration I have been feeling a lot of confusion whether I have made the right decision. Looking back I feel that I haven't given the relationship a fair chance... I mean, I can see him trying to make the relationship work.
I should tell you the things that worry me the most in the relationship:
1. He would forget to call when he says he would call, (usually happens when he is out with his friends). He did this twice in our relationship. This really hurts my feelings.
2. He has a hard time talking about his feelings.
3. He has told me that he does not want to get close to me right now. He is fearful of becoming dependent or feeling vulnerable which he admits can easily happen with me. He says he Ījust needs timeā.
4. When goes out to outings with his friends (i.e., camping), he would never ask me. However,r he has told me it is because he does not have a car or that is only for the guys (sometimes there are his friendsā girlfriends that do go).
Of course there are good points to the relationship also:
1. Although we have not traveled anywhere (neither of us has a car), we do take walks together and hold hands, cuddle and talk about fears, past and present, life in general. He make me dinner sometimes.
2. The sex is great and he always made the effort of cuddling me afterwards.
3. Have some nights out where we spend time with our friends.
Now... let me ask you... was I wrong in my choice? Or are the actions I
described above normal in a relationship... especially one in such an
early stage. I still care about him a lot and miss him... I just don't
know if it is worth the pain.
A - Dear Anna,
No, I donāt imagine that a fellow like this is Īworth the painā....of course, it DOES depend on how much you enjoy pain. If you enjoy pain, then, by all means keep thinking about a guy who has made it really clear that, except for sex, you are really quite disposable.
If this fellow really WANTED to keep you in his his life and if YOU were as Īspecialā to HIM as HE is to YOU.....well, things would be different. He doesnāt, you arenāt, (sorry), and they arenāt.
Fortune cookie say, ĪMove onā ......you deserve......and will find...betterā
- Annabelle
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