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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My boyfriend complained of our relationship saying that he didn't Îfeel the feelingâ, he felt Îemptyâ and that Îit wasn't excitingâ.
He said he has been trying but he's only tried for about a week. He said he needs to think things over and told me that he would call me. After a week, he emailed to see if I was okay. I called him the next day and asked if he wanted to do something that week. We agreed. A few days later,we had dinner. I brought up the topic to see where I stood and to explain that he really needs to give this some more time. The conclusion from the evening was that he would call me, (he was very insistent that I let him do this), and then, if we did something, we would just take it naturally. He felt we needed to cool things down and take it naturally.
What is the meaning of this and should I wait for him to call and let him lead the relationship? I know the time gives me time to gather my composure and dignity and that it might actually be good to let things happen naturally.
A - Dear Marisol,
Iâd absolutely take him at his word. Youâre roughly one step away from ÎIâm outta hereâ......! You donât say what went on before, what your relationship has been, but when a person indicates they want to back off....well, all YOU can do is to let them. I donât know what you mean by Îlet things happen naturallyâ.......rushing things generally leads to mischief in any case. Follow his lead.........there are worse things that could happen.........you wouldnât want to be MARRIED and hearing these words!
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