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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I just started dating someone with a low-self estem problem. when he gets down on himself, with remarks I always reassure him, and tell him to please don't go there. And I always remind him, that its not so any other suggestions.?!
A - Dear Cindy,
Yes, find someone who thinks well of himself. There are a couple of issues here. One, this is a grown man. He is who he is and it works for him.........for one thing is draws nice mommy-like ladies to him who, until they figure out the Îlittle boy actâ, hang around and make nice.
Two, this is a power trip for you...(yes, it is). This is a no-win for YOU...unless this is your idea of fun. YOU, Cindy were not put on earth as a Îrescuerâ. His Îactâ, whether thatâs what you want to call it or not, works. His depression is HIS depression. Point him in the direction of a competent therapist. If he goes, and works with the professional to pull himself out of his hole, great. If he doesnât....itâs not in YOUR best interests to join him there. Your not the first lady to try this...and you wonât be the last.
- Annabelle
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