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Q - Dear Annabelle,
What is your opinion on age difference? I am dating a man who is 20 years my senior and I do like him but I wonder if the age gap is too much. We are both divorced, his oldest child is 3 years younger than me and his youngest 20. My children are only 4 and 11. Still, we have a lot in common. What do you think? Should I give it a chance or get out before I get too emotionally attached?
A - Dear V,
At your stage in life that IS a very big difference. Depending on where you want this relationship to go, youâre going to have to give this a lot of thought. If you want to marry him, be aware that, in about 20 or so years or so, while you are still at peak performance, his health may begin to decline. If your bond is because of his wonderful personality and intellect and wonderful sense of humor, this kind of problem is not troublesome, and, at your age, widowhood seems far away.....though you will also be faced with that.
Itâs important that you role model, for your children, appropriate and responsible adult behavior, which means that you do no live with him while you are unmarried. These relationships DO work out, not often, but it is possible. Are you thinking that no one nearer your own age would find you attractive, or is this fellow just all around better in every way than someone whoâs at the same stage of life that you are? Only you can answer these questions.
- Annabelle
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