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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I am a 27 year old male and I have just reentered school in hopes of getting a Master's Degree. Due to the fact that I am switching fields from my Bachelor's Degree I have to take a few 100 and200 level courses to do some catch up learning. In one of those courses there is this beautiful redhead. The moment I saw her I knew I was in
trouble. I knew that I was going to be spending more time watching her than the professor. I want to know more about her. At the moment I don't even know her name. I figure if I want to meet her, I am going to have to make the first move.
My problem is finding the right approach. Walking up to her before or after class and just introducing myself seem a bit awkward. There are about 200 students in this class. So having this anonymous stranger come up and start talking to you out of the blue might seem strange. Plus I don't know what I would say. On the other hand wandering around campus in hopes of bumping into her seems like a poor plan as well.
A - Dear Face,
Hmmmm, I see what you mean, and Iām trying to remember what worked with me...... Letās see, going to where she is after class and asking her for her viewpoint on a topic might work. Say Īthanks, I hadnāt thought of it that way, what do you think might happen if.....ä, and, after that second answer.... leave. If you do that two or more times, sheāll get inoculated to seeing you around and you might then be able to ask to buy her a cup of coffee to Īpay her backā for indulging you with answers. You might leave notes in her book...once. Some fellows gaze at a female in whom they are interested. Thatās GAZE, not STARE. Gazing is a softer version and involves smiling.
Keep in mind that if you are NOT the same age this may not work. You, at 27 will seem much older to an early 20ās type. The age spread willingness to date doesn't really begin in earnest until the 30ās.
Good luck...have fun!
- Annabelle
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