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Q - Dear Annabelle,
Iāve been out of a marriage for two years now. I never thought I could ever have an interest in anyone anymore because of the devastating pain I went through in the divorce. Much to my surprise, I realize these feelings have surfaced again. I think the other person is interested himself but is very shy.
I donāt know how to go about pursuing this or is I should just let this go. This person is two years younger than myself and has never been married. I have two children and sometimes think I just imagine his interest in me, but he just always seems to be near at church, socials, etc. Please advise.
A - Dear Becky,
That he is 38, when you are 40, is no real age difference in the group in which you find yourself....as you get older age differences are less and less relevant. It does sound as if he is interested in you. You might enlist his help in some church activity, assuming nothing more than a lightly interested friendship. After youāve taken the initiative a couple of times, let him make further suggestions for your being together and then see what happens. The best relationships grow out of good, solid friendships.
As far as your hesitancy to get involved because of the pain you went through........this is very common. If your church or community offers a divorce recovery group, I would recommend that. Having ones heartstrings ripped by a dreadful experience is no darned fun. Enjoy!
- Annabelle
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