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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I have a guy i have been seeing for 4 years. His wife died awhile ago. He was
married 2 times and was so, he says, Îforcedâ into both. He is 10 years older than me. I love him very much but I am afraid to ask where are we going with this relationship.
When we talk about things years down the road he always includes me. I am confused i have been married before and have a 7 year old who he cares lot about. I would like to marry him or at least get engaged. How should i so this?
A - Dear Debbie,
You are with a 51 year old guy who says he was Îforcedâ into marriage.....twice? Is there a man shortage in your town? I want you to be really clear about something. It is evidently ok with you that you have a guy who is totally passive......and that YOU are
Îafraid to ask where are we going with this relationshipâ. Uh, Debbie....? Anybody home in there??
You say you want to marry him.......what???? OK, do this: Ask him, ãWhere do you see us in six months? (Remember, youâve been with him for four years here). Now, if he doesnât come up with a very expensive ring and a date for marriage WITHIN THE SIX MONTH TIME PERIOD...........you have your answer. You are a convenience AND that is what YOU are willing to settle for.
This is your life.....you have chosen this fellow as a role model for your child........you have EXACTLY what you are willing to put up with and to settle for.
- Annabelle
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