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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My boyfriend and I have been together, (monogamously), only 2 1/2 months, but there is lots of chemistry, laughs and affection. He's take me to meet his Mom. In the past 2 weeks, though, he has seen me less and spent more time on his own hobbies -
what used to be "our" time.
He still calls every day, but I feel we are not getting any closer or progressing. In the last few days, he still calls and says everything will beā OK between usā, but I can't help but notice the change and feel lonely and sort of rejected. Do you think he is just needing space, or maybe something has gone awry? I've not questioned him because I fear he'll pull away even further.
Please advise. Thank you. but has not made plans to see me.
A - Dear Melissa,
What you are describing is a classic form of behavior. I wonāt bore you with the details, but do remember this. When a relationship starts out all Īhot and heavyā like this, it has every chance of burning itself out almost immediately......and the process has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
There is a certain subset of people, usually guys, who have a certain personality dynamic.....set from earliest infancy.......and this is just Īwho they areā. You could twist yourself into a pretzel and still notā get it right Īfor this relationship to continue with this guy.
This is just Īhow he isā.....and thereās nothing you can do to make it different. That YOU connected so quickly with him indicates that YOU could use some inner work with a good psychologist........especially if this has ever happened before. These guys have a Īsenseā for attracting someone like you....and there are more of them out there.
Donāt bother fretting about this one...nothing would have come of it.
- Annabelle
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