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Q - Dear Annabelle,
WHAT SHOULD I DO? I HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO I LOVES VERY MUCH, BUT HE SEEMS TO HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM. SINCE HE BEEN DOING DRUGS HE HASN'T BEEN HIS SELF. HE EVEN GETTING A LITTLE VIOLENT. HE PUTS HIS FRIENDS BEFORE ME. HE ONLY WANTS SEX WHEN HE WANTS IT. CAN YOU
PLEASE HELP ME SO I WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO?
A - Dear Sylvia,
When someone Īseems to have a drug problemā........they HAVE a drug problem. The only Īhelpā YOU can be is to yourself. Leave him.....now. Drugs are #1 in his life and they will be until the day HE decides to quit. That he satisfies his sexual urges at HIS whim means nothing other than heās totally self absorbed.
That YOU areā volunteeringā to be there for him.......and not for yourself......is troubling. You cannot Īfixā him, you cannot Īmake him betterā.....only HE can do that and, while drugs are in the picture, YOU are not important. No amount of wishing or rationalizing on your part will change what is Īrealā right now. An organism that is tuned to drugs is so self involved that nothing else matters.
Do yourself a VERY big favor and grow yourself into a stronger person so that someone like this is of no interest to you. Thereās an entire world of healthy people out there who do NOT do drugs and use people sexually......you not only deserve better, you can HAVE better.
There's something else you should know............your sexual relationship with a drug user can KILL you. Hepatitis 3 is not only fatal.......it's a very slow and nasty way to die. http://www.epidemic.org/index2.html
- Annabelle
Q - Dear Annabelle,
Doesn't that come from needles. Cause he is using crack. Can you get it from that?
A - Dear Sylvia,
You CANNOT TRUST ANYONE who uses drugs..........DRUGS LIE. Call your local drug rehab and find a group for YOURSELF before, (if it's not too late), YOU get infected. Emotions cloud the mind and THIS 'lovesickness' can KILL you.
ESPECIALLY if he is using crack......he is ALREADY *beyond help*. 'Crack' rewires the brain's neural pathways. YOU stop.....*today*...........are YOU addicted to him? DON'T do this to yourself. For HIM YOU no longer exist....except to be used.
- Annabelle
Q - Dear Annabelle,
What do I do? I have 3 kids by him. Do you think there is any hope for him or me?
A - Dear Sylvia,
As long as he is Īusingā, there is no hope for him....NONE. As far as you and the children are concerned, which of your children do you wish to become addicts or prostitutes, or worse?
You have a very, very difficult task to undertake. You are a single mother with a bum for the childrenās father. LOOK into your childrenās eyes........which one will it be? One of them..........ALL of them?
You must find a way to get help for yourself and for the children. Itās only a matter of time before he is in jail or dead. This is where YOU get to find out just what YOU are made of.........you have to be strong, not just for YOU, but for this children. Their lives are on the line.
- Annabelle
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