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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My boyfriend loves to masterbate with my sneakers.I don't understand
his fetish! He gets angry with me when I don't fondle him with my sneakers.
I don't like to because I feel he loves my sneakers more than me. Is he normal?
A - Dear Lauren,
Well, youâre right, he DOES love your sneakers more than he loves you.
Thatâs gotta hurt. Without going into great detail, I will tell you that his focus
on shoes as a sexual substitute -- thatâs the classic definition of Îfetishâ came
from his infancy. Shoes are commonly used by fetishists as symbolic vaginas.
Why does your boyfriend like the symbol as well as -- or better than
-- the real thing? That's for a skilled professional to answer. You describe
your boyfriend as someone who needs professional help. Truly, this case will
need someone who deals with fetishes......... it's no job
for a beginner.
He should try to find a therapist with experience treating this particular
disorder, someone who will try to resolve the underlying causes, not just
the symptoms. (No point in curing his sneaker fetish, only to have it replaced
by a pantyhose fetish.)
The good news is that a dedicated, experienced practitioner may well be
able to effect a cure. The bad news is that the process may take years rather
than months.
Think long and hard about staying with this boyfriend.
Good luck!
- Annabelle
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