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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My husband needs to be dominated. He likes pain. At first I was reluctant but then I started giving him domination sessions and he he insists on paying for this service. Should I continue or not ?
Please advise: Is this normal behavior?
A - Dear Mistress Sado,
Well, you sure got MY attention! Yes, this kind of behavior is rated as Īnormalā. Now, in the Īmiddle of the bell curveā, itās not, but the sexual continuum is a long one. Your letter doen't say how you feel doing it. If you enjoy it and he enjoys it, it's no one else's business. Of course, if you don't enjoy it, that's another story. my rule for acceptable sex practice is: Both partners want to do it; neither is coercing the other. It doesn't expose either partner to risk of infection, injury or other harm. It doesn't expose anyone else to any of those risks. It is kept private. It is legal. If your sessions meet all those standards, the rest is up to you....now, having said that, Iām very aware that more than a few eyebrows have shot up Īout thereā in the reading audience.
If you understand that, in an infantās development, any number of things can happen involving impressions of sights, sounds, smells, sensations of all kinds, where the moment of experience is mixed with what is a sensory pleasant memory in the urogenital area, you might more clearly understand how there comes to be such a very wide array of sexual predilections. Think for a moment....if a young child is turned over his motherās knee and spanked, what part of his anatomy just might be in contact with her body? Take it from there with all its possible permutations and you can see why, in our relatively Puritanical culture, that the dominatrix earns such a tidy sum
"Should I continue?" You alone can answer that. I can only tell you some good news and some bad news. Good news: Many very fine and succesful men share your husband's predeliction. Aristotle is said to have been one of them. Oddly, addiction to sexual submission doesn't seem to affect the rest of their character or personality, (except as they suffer guilt and sadness about the addiction itself.) Bad news: He probably won't outgrow this need. You need to know that you are deciding whether or not to continue marriage with a husband who needs what he says he needs. (If you contuinue the marriage and don't continue playing dominatirx, he'll likely find a woman who will.) You ask if this is "normal behavior." Most men couldn't even imagine doing it, let alone enjoying and actually needing it. But it's not at all unique to your husband. Enough men need it to support professional dominatrices in most major cities. In other words, itās a service that provdes an income for those with the inclination to provide them.
- Annabelle
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