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Q - Dear Annabelle,
We are happily married for 16 years. Lately my husband was urging me to try sex with
other men and couples, talking seriously about visiting a swingerās club. I do not know what to do. I am sort of interested myself, but I am afraid that this may destroy our marriage. What shall I do? Refuse him flat? Or play along?
A - Dear Dina,
Yes, it will destroy your marriage. In America that is called Īswinging.ā There was a fad for it here during the 1960ās, so we have some idea of the probable results. If you and/or your husband want to end your marriage, and have some sexual adventure in the process, you really donāt need Annabelleās help. It you want to maintain your marriage, then it is vitally important that you and your husband sit down and have an honest conversation about his reasons for urging this.
You may THINK youāve been happily married for 18 years. If that were true, and you were sexually bored, youād be looking for new things to do in bed together. There are many, MANY things that happily married couples do in bed.......together........that do not involve strangers......or friends. You donāt sound as if youāve tried many of them. The libraries in the United States have books full of happy surprises, like the KamaSutra, that will trigger the imagination of any couple who are still interested in EACH OTHER. If the KamaSutra is not available from a library, go to a bookstore.
If bookstores arenāt a realistic answer, try amazon.com at http://www.amazon.com. They carry the KamaSutra. If that wonāt work for you, figure out something that will. It isnāt a question of whether the KamaSutra is worth the effort. It is. The question YOU have to answer is whether your marriage is worth the effort. To repeat, swinging will destroy it.
Remember, Īcapitalismā is private ownership........ācommunismā is where everyone has a hand in the matter.
There is one more, vital, thing about which I should warn you. In Russia, AIDS is rampant.........government denial has kept exceedingly important information about this fatal virus from the general populace. In a Īswingerās clubā you would be meeting people who, by definition, have multiple sex partners. .
Though, in the West, treatments for AIDS are beginning to be available, (for about $3000 US$$ per month), another, and currently *deadlier virus* has surfaced. It has received little publicity, even in America, and is called Hepatitus3. (http://www.hepnet.com/nih/contents.html). AIDS and Hepatitus3 are BOTH passed from one person to another through the exchange of body fluids. These, and other unpleasantries are called Sexually Transmitted Diseases, ( STDās), and are truly horrible. By having sex with ANY person, you are, by extension, having sex with EVERY person THAT person has had sex with for the last TEN YEARS......(is THAT Īswingingā enough for you?), and thatās about how long these STDās have been multiplying. The World Health Organization is vigorously trying to get a handle on something that is akin to the modern day plague. I can imagine NO sexual pleasure worth dying for.
- Annabelle
Q - Dear Annabelle,
Thank you for your kind and detailed message, which sounds very true to me. I can very well live without sexual adventures and sexual diseases. I will certainly think of your suggestion to use Kama Sutra to improve our sex life. I am very-very grateful for
your support and understanding.
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