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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My husband and I are happily married we're newly weds and recently I have found myself wanting more than what I have. I am bisexual and my husband knows this. He says he's ok with it, however I feel he would be uncomfortable seeing me with another woman, and even if he didn't see me with her I feel he would still resent me knowing I
was with her. Also I feel I would be guilty and selfish for being with another woman. However I still want very much to be with a woman every now and then, He says he understands that but I've always heard of things like this ruining a relationship and or marriage. What should I do about this?
A - Dear Godess,
Think back to your marriage vows....do you remember promising to Īforsake all othersā? Well, thatās the phrase that covers this, or any similar, situation. Now, that you are bisexual and your husband is aware of it is one thing...that you very clearly understand that in life, just because we Īfeelā like we Īwant somethingā is not the motivating force for having it. Being human is a privilege not an excuse and, as such, it is important to understand that Īfeelingsā are just that...feelings....and do not require action on our part. In fact, NOT acting on many of our Īfeelingsā avoids much social unpleasantness. Would Īthings like thisā ruin your relationship? Well, the statistics are, yes, they would...but, even if they didnāt Īruinā the marriage.....it is YOU that you have to face in the mirror in the morning. Keep in mind that doing the Īrightā thing isnāt always easy........by doing the Īright thingā supports integrity...and builds character...and character does count.
- Annabelle
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