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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I know that I am in love, but the only problem is, it is with a girl. It is like she does everything for me that a man could do besides her treating me with respect? What should I do?
A - Dear Little Bit,
At 18, going slowly and learning more about YOU would be a really good idea. Gender confusion, at any age, can be a problem. More has been learned about the nature of sexuality in general and, sexuality, as are most things appears to be on a continuum from strictly male heterosexual to strictly female heterosexual with the true bisexual in the middle. There appears to be five sexes in all. Now, what your religious beliefs are, I do not know, but if you are of a religion that is against homosexuality, then, lesbian you may be, and the proscription is against Īacting outā lesbian behavior. This is a knotty and convoluted situation, not to be taken lightly.
Some young people go through a period of sexual same sex experimentation, though it generally takes place at a younger age. You might explore this more with a professional. Now, you say that your friend does not treat you with Īrespectā. I donāt know, exactly, what that means to you, but people will treat you just the way you train ......and allow them to. Ask for what you want, if you donāt get it, acknowledge the other personās unwillingness to be what you need and go find another relationship where you are more comfortable.
In life, when you find one thing not to your liking and attempt to Īchangeā it into another thing, you are inviting, not only frustration, but failure. See life as it is and develop what works...or, as a friend of mine once said, Īride the horse in the direction it is going.ā
- Annabelle
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