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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I have been married for only two months to the most wonderful man. The problem is, I have hardly any interest in sex at all! It would suit me fine to just go straight to sleep every night and skip the Īsex thingā. What's wrong with me? I'm only 20 AND a newlywed... I should be having sex at least once a day!
I just canāt seem to Īget into itā. My husband is the only person I've been with so
there isnāt any comparison going on. Before we were married we had sex very often, (though I had an orgasm only about half the time). Even when I do come it's never very intense.
Are some women just made differently? Now, once we're having sex I can sometimes get into it, it's just that it takes so long for me to get turned on, (when I even do). What's wrong with me? Could it be physical or chemical? I don't think itās emotional because I love my husband more than anything in this world and he's a very attractive man.
A - Dear Amanda,
Well, I donāt know how to tell you this, but.....well........youāre just going to have to practice, practice, practice! (Seriously, that you enjoyed sex before you were married tells me that youāre quite normal). That youāre having difficulties now isnāt at all unusual.....sometimes the Īforbiddenā aspect of sex-before-marriage adds spice and then, when one gets married........ESPECIALLY married at 20, you just donāt have the sexual repertoire that an older and more experienced person has. (Believe me, by the time youāre 60, youāll look back at this concern and laugh......THEN youāll have a repertoire!)
Too, you havenāt had the time together to develop and to explore the myriad of lifeās adventures that make sex such a wonderful payoff and delightful form of communication. You are orgasmic, so thereās no problem there. Trust me, it may take a while....maybe even a very long time, but, one of these days....or years, youāre going to be just delighted, amazed and thrilled that you took kindly Ms. Annabelleās advice and kept on finding knew and wonderfully inventive ways to express your sexuality.
Enjoy as you go along.......and I wasnāt kidding about practice......(besides, itās always fun)...........itās a loving way for a husband and wife to be together. Do you like experimenting? There are no Īrulesā now, you know. Youāre alone together, in love, and MARRIED!......enjoy! ;o)
- Annabelle
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