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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My best friend is having a hard time keeping a boyfriend. She never seems
satisfied enough to Īstick it outā. What could her problem be and what can she do to fix it?
A - Dear Autumn,
Well, without more information, I can only guess, at what the solution might be. However, since you are 22, I will assume that your friend is about your age. At 22, or thereabouts, to not yet be Īmatureā enough to sustain a relationship, (while not unheard of), is not a good sign.
Very young children always want Īmore...more MOREā and if this trait persists into young adulthood, it does not bode well for the Īadultā personality. In any relationship there are good things and bad things and getting Īantsyā and continually moving on in search of the, (possibly), Īmissingā component is a sign of an immature personality AND of a personality deficient in itself.
When a person is Īmissingā a component needed to develop fully into adulthood, that person will often/usually, (you pick), search for that Īmissingā component in another person, hoping to absorb it into themselves. This almost never works, and the person will go on a lifelong search, looking to be Īfilledā or Īcompletedā.
Since we can only fill ourselves, you can see the problem here. My answer is now much longer than your question.
- Annabelle
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