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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I'm in desperate need for advice. I have been friends with this woman for a long time. We went to college together. I graduated last semester and she still in school. We still hang out and do stuff together. Our relationship has always been platonic. The problem is though, I've become attracted to her and I think I'm in love with her. I've wanted to tell her how I really feel about her. But a couple things have held me back. First, she had a boyfriend all this time up until a few months ago when they broke up. Second, I've been friends with her for so long that I don't want to ruin the relationship I already have with her. I really care about her and she is dear to me. Should I just tell her how I really feel about her? Should I wait a little while longer? or Should I just let it go and keep things the way they are (which would be very difficult to do)? Please help me!! thanks!!
A - Dear Matt,
Remember the line in Hamlet about ăscrew thy courage to the sticking pointä? Well, this situation may be just that dicey. Your best shot would be to wait until youâre out and having a riotously good time, wait just a bit for a quiet moment and make some comment, at once heartfelt and offhand like, Îyouâre such fun and Iâd like us to be together alwaysâ..........that will elicit a telling response. There are just times in life when we have to Îshow upâ on our own behalf and take a risk. Actually, there are few young women who could resist hearing that she is Îdearâ to you.
I will hold the belief for you that she would like to hear the words that you have said to me said to her........you sound like a really good guy and any young woman worth her salt would be lucky to have you. Besides, you donât want her thinking that ÎMatt isn't interested and I guess Iâll be romantically interested in a new guyâ. THAT would hurt too. Itâs a gamble....life just is, but sometimes you just have to place your bet and spin the wheel. Good luck. Hug.
- Annabelle
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