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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I was engaged to a guy for three years and two weeks before the wedding I found out
he was cheating on me. I have since moved on from there and have found someone I care and love very much, but he says he doesn't think people should get engaged the first two years of their relationship. The problem is he is committed to having kids the first two years of our relationship. Why isn't he ready to commit to marriage?
A - Dear Ashina,
Gee, thatās certainly backward....at least you know it! Look, this isnāt some Polynesian culture where fertility is proven before marriage.....is it? The two year engagement I have no problem with, thatās always a good idea, but this other situation is, in my never-to-be-humble opinion, NOT in your best interests. For what itās worth, youāre getting seriously involved with guys much too soon.....the 20ās are for growing and exploring your self and world, if you team up too soon, you miss a very important developmental step!
- Annabelle
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