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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I ended a relationship in June, and I thought this guy was the love of my life, my soul mate. But for 2 1/2 years, he couldn't bring himself to introduce me to his family because I was not Korean. It wasn't just that he didn't introduce me, he was also
hiding me from his family.
Now, I'm having regrets. Did I do the right thing to break things off? I'm
in a new relationship now and I constantly find myself comparing this new guy to my old flame and he's not measuring up. I know that it's not fair to my new man, but I can't help it.
Do you think that it's unhealthy for me to be in a new relationship so soon?
A - Dear B,
Whatās unhealthy, is your having been willing to put up with such treatment! Your Īsoul mateā?.....now, that may SOUND romantic, and in a culture where even your country is divided, itās understandable that you have shame-based gender[based image issues, but, truly, being relegated to Īinvisibilityā by a man is not a good portent for the future!
If you can find a good psychologist......a classically trained one.......you might do well to explore why it is that you allowed yourself to be treated so. Would YOU treat you this way?.....and yet you allowed someone else to do it and Īlovedā him as well! (See what questions need answering here?)
In order to HAVE better in this world, we need, not only to KNOW that we want better, but also we must know what BETTER is.......that part is really important.
(In this Īnewā relationship, I trust you have met someone who not only values your company but is also generous with his time and attention....yes?)
- Annabelle
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