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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I am 20 and a mother of one. I have been seeing this guy for 5 months and now I am having feelings for another guy I meet at college. I love the guy I am with, he treats me good, and we have talked about marriage. If I am having feelings for this other guy, am I bad, and does this mean the first one is not for me? I am a Christian woman and feel guilty about all this, but I really like this other guy. The first guy is great too, but I canāt have my cake and eat it too.
A - Dear Julie,
Julie, you donāt say where the father of the child is, but, as a ĪChristian womanā, wouldnāt it be just a really good idea for you to do a little thinking about your life, your childās future and what lies ahead if you donāt quit leading your life by your Īfeelingsā?
Feelings are ephemeral, Julie, as well you know. What were you Īfeelingā the time you conceived your child, when you found out you were pregnant, when you wondered how you were going to get through all of this......alone?
Just as you wouldnāt get into a car, turn on the engine, put the car in gear, release the parking brake and..........jump OUT of the car.........donāt get your Īfeelingsā all revved up when you donāt have a direction for them. Feelings are just feelings.......you donāt EVER have to act on them.
What you DO have to act upon, Julie, is your own good sense to take care of your childās future. That is best done by concentrating on your studies, getting a good education, getting a good job, ...........preferably one where you work from home so you can be the most important person in your childās life.......mom.
Forgo emotional entanglements until you have secured a financial future for yourself and your child. You will be much happier ...(a feeling)... in the long run if you use that brain of yours to build yourselves a good, solid life NOW.
- Annabelle
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