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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I've been best friends with this guy for about three years. On my eighteenth birthday, me, my best friend, and a couple friends of ours were hanging out. Everyone was acting silly when one of our friends blurted out that my best friend and I would be Īperfect for each otherā.
I guess that was when I realized that I loved him more than a friend. I don't know if I should pursue my object of affection or if I should let it go. Sometimes me and my best friend act like we're more than friends and we never paid much attention to that, but now that I've had this terrible revelation, I don't know how to act anymore. And the plot thickens...my best friend also went out with a close girlfriend of mine.
She cheated on him and dumped him for another guy and my best friend still loves her. I also know that if I ever went out with him, she would hate me for it. What am I supposed to do?! All this time I've been doing things to make everyone else happy but Think it's time I deserved a little happiness as well.
A - Dear Mabelle,
Well! This IS a pickle! At 18, this sort of behavior is entirely appropriate and usual...still it gets very confusing and hurtful for all concerned. (Trust me, there arenāt a lot of Īvolunteersā whoād be willing to go through the teen-age years again.......!)
Well, heās emotionally attached to Īherā at this point, so thereās a component in him that needs to be bound to a disappointing woman. (Rats). Real Īmaturityā is when one is drawn into healthy relationships....such as the one you and he probably have. Interestingly enough, the Īstuffā in life that Īworksā gets the least amount of attention, therefore you and he havenāt really paid attention to the fact that you ARE a good pair.
Thereās so much TRASH out there that, unless ones has a struggle, a relationship isnāt called Īlovingā. Now, isnāt THAT strange? Let it ride, be yourself, tell him how you feel....it COULD work!
- Annabelle
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