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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I am engaged to a loving man, who is a great father to his son. He would do anything in his power to make me happy- all I have to do is ask. Lately it seem like I have to ask too many times for things. It's the little things too. Like a kiss when I get home, or a hug
for no reason. I feel like he's forgetting about me! We have 1 year left until the marriage, I'm afraid I'm not going to make it! Other men are starting to look quite tempting! Is there something you can suggest that I do? We've been together for 5 years,have a beautiful son, and our own house. I don't know if I'm ready to loose this, or at least the security of it.
A - Dear Lori,
Well, 23 is rather young for you to be getting married.........by next year you will be 24 and thatās a tad better. Notice how youāre behaving already? You see, when we wait to marry until AFTER weāre 25, not only do we have more life experience, but also weāve become more mature and KNOW that we arenāt always Īin loveā with the person to whom we ARE married. Thatās why someone ELSE can look tempting.
Now, you should know that there will, likely, ALWAYS be Īsomeone elseā whoās tempting......the more mature person knows that, on balance, the best choice was made at the time and, remains the Ībest choiceā.
Your guy sounds like quite a nice person........lets turn things a bit. You say that he would Īdo anything in his powerā to make you happy. What would YOU do to make HIM happy? Would you, for instance, create in YOUR MIND a model of him just being showered with your loving thoughts and words? If you do this unceasingly for a week or more, you will actually find that YOUR feelings are warming up again.
Remember, we BECOME what we think.....our THOUGHTS create our being. The more you THINK something, the greater likelihood of your following your thoughts into actions..........so be careful of what you dwell upon. Your entire life can change if you go wandering carelessly off without an idea where your ideas can lead you.
Give THAT some thought..........and give HIM a hug....he probably needs it just as YOU do.
- Annabelle
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