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Q - Dear Annabelle,
This might sound a little crazy, but I have been best friends with this one fellow for close to two years. I love him, but he JUST WANTS TO BE FRIENDS!
Well, this WOULD be okay, but we got a little physical, (for over 8 months), and NOW he doesn't want to do that anymore because he don't want to LEAD ME ON!!
Well, once again, I love him and I'm really confused! When I'm with him I just want to cuddle and NOW he barely touches me, which makes me REALLY doubting my
OWN self! I know that he has feelings for me, but is he too scared, or am I fooling myself?
He gets really mad when people mention us being together! The idea of ANY girl having HIM "whopped" seems impossible! I don't want him whooped! I want to love him?
Can you give me some solid advice? Stay friends? What if he wants to mess around again? THEN WHAT?
A - Dear Serena,
Listen to what you have said....... YOU Īloveā him........! Know what Īloveā is? ĪLoveā, REAL love, is when you want what is best FOR the love object.....from what youāre saying, you want what YOU want. He has told you what HE wants, and thatās to be ..........just friends.
To be having a sexual relationship at 20, under ANY circumstances where you are not married, (and, why would you be married at 20?), is just plain foolish. Sex is the #1 known cause of babies and babies need a loving, stable, two parent home to be raised to healthy adulthood.
Serena, take that 20 year old brain of yours and turn it to where it will do YOU the most good.....and that is your education. YOU owe YOURSELF an excellent education so, when you DO meet Īthe oneā, you can make the choice, (yes, Īloveā IS a choice), to love him and establish a long term healthy relationship.
Allowing yourself to be swayed by your emotions and to behave in ways that are not in your best interests in the long run is to disavow ownership of your own life. You DO understand, donāt you, that YOU belong to YOU??
This young man sounds as if heās given HIS future and whatās in the best interests of HIS future family some thought.........why not do the same for yourself?
- Annabelle
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