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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I am currently in a relationship with an 18 year old with a 2 year old child. I feel that I do love her but, being 18, her maturity and mine are way off. I feel I may have made a mistake by breaking up with my ex-girlfriend for her. My ex-girlfriend and I didn't break up on great terms and wondered if I should contact her or not?
I have a letter already to go but don't know if it's a good idea. Right now I am feeling the "don't know what you have till it's gone" emotion. I would appreciate any help you can offer.
A - Dear Dave,
Well, everyone makes mistakes........the 18 year old who had sex and got pregnant at 15...you, for breaking up inelegantly, (happens), and for thinking you could Īrescueā the 18 year old. YES, ........thereās a maturity level difference! The maturity curve that takes place from 15 to 25 is amazing.........!
If your Īex-girlfriendā is someone that you really WANT to have a relationship with and itās not just that you canāt stand being alone, (and, if thatās the case you have other things with which you must deal.)
The Īdonāt know what you have till itās goneā emotion is something you need to pay attention to. If this is becoming a pattern with you, then it would be a VERY good idea for you to see a good psychologist to explore this behavior before it becomes a permanent part of your operating style........it can seriously hamper your enjoyment of life.
And, for what itās worth, when next you feel the need to leave, or break upā with someone, if youāre clear that the relationship is over, there are ways of leaving that donāt result in permanent scars.
- Annabelle
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